[はじめて, hajimete] (adv, adj-no) (1) (See 始める・1) for the first time; (adv) (2) (after the -te form of a verb) only after ... is it ...; only when ... do you ...; (P)#1041
[いしょくたりてれいせつをしる, ishokutaritereisetsuwoshiru] (exp) the poor can't afford manners; only when basic needs for living are met can people spare the effort to be polite