[わがみをつねってひとのいたさをしれ, wagamiwotsunettehitonoitasawoshire] (exp) (id) you can't appreciate others' suffering until you've gone through it yourself; pinch oneself and know others' pain
[ひとにはそうてみようまにはのってみよ, hitonihasoutemiyoumanihanottemiyo] (exp) (obsc) you can't judge someone until you've spent time with them, just like you can't judge a horse until you've ridden it